The Imposter in the Room

#1: Banish that Negative Self-Talk

About ten years ago, I began reading more about housework — specifically, how to motivate myself to do any. I’m not an organized person by nature, especially when it comes to my surroundings, so I needed to do some research to see what might work for me. What I found was FlyLady, a poorly designed site with content that was pure gold. One of FlyLady’s core phrases is “getting rid of that stinkin’ thinkin’,” which was a very Southern way of referring to negative self-talk.

#2: Have a Growth Mentality

Allison House spoke about accelerated skills growth, using her own plunge into 3D animation as a narrative for best practices. She challenged us to invest in new areas, first broadly and then in-depth, and to do so on a consistent basis, taking small, bite-sized chunks every day as a to create momentum.

#3: Reflect on Past Successes

Denise Jacobs also advocates reflecting on past successes as a way to getting past the imposter syndrome. “Whenever I have to write something,” she laughed, “I just put a copy of my book on the desk in front of me. That reminds me that a 700 word blog post isn’t anything compared to a 250,000 word book.”

#4: No Guts, No Glory

Probably the most important of the messages, though, is that with no risk, there is no reward. Another way of putting this is the proverb: “Nothing ventured, nothing gained.” Without the willingness to step outside of my comfort zone, there will be no way I can up that bar.



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Elaine Chao

Elaine Chao


I work for Adobe on Adobe XD. Also a martial arts instructor, musician, writer, volunteerism advocate. Opinions mine.